Embracing My ADHD Journey: Finding Joy and Balance in Motherhood
My journey with neurodiversity began when I started noticing ADHD symptoms in my eldest at just 2-3 years old. Documenting these observations and discussing them with educators led to a pivotal diagnosis appointment. As I filled out the NICHQ Vanderbilt Assessment and the Conners CBRS, it hit me: "I know where he got this from." After my second child and returning to work, I couldn’t mask my symptoms anymore. I was completely burnt out, overwhelmed, and found little joy in being a stay-at-home mum.
Since my diagnosis and starting medication, I've experienced personal, emotional, mental, and professional growth I never thought possible. Growing up in a loud family, I expected certain reactions from myself. But with therapy and medication, I began to see a better version of me. One night, after the kids were in bed, I realised I’d enjoyed my day with them—including the chaos and noise. ADHD had been robbing me of motherhood's magic, but now I could finally embrace the joy.
The Signs:
Initially, life management templates were a game changer. But when they stopped working, clutter grew both physically and mentally. The TV was too loud, the kids were overwhelming, and I struggled to initiate tasks. I couldn’t regulate my emotions, had constant "brain noise," increased hunger, and was forgetting everything—appointments, emails, tasks.
The Struggle:
Life became overwhelming. Managing a growing business, a neurodiverse child, a toddler, and single parenting was too much. I learned that clutter won’t kill me, often reminding myself, “I’m not being chased by a sabre-toothed tiger. I’ll get to it when I get to it.” But I felt lost again.
Finding Solutions:
I took notes and finally booked an appointment to adjust my medication, even if it took four months. Communicating with those around me helped them hold space for me, and I did the same for myself. Now, two days into my new medication, I feel organised and full of life again. My creativity has blossomed, and I can’t wait to see what comes next.
Self-awareness and community support are crucial. It’s important to acknowledge your challenges and break cycles of negative self-talk. Own your diagnosis, but don’t let it become an excuse. ADHD shapes my life, but it also empowers me to be my authentic self—that’s my superpower.
I'd love to connect with you and hear your experiences. Share your stories and tips with me on social media or through my website. Let’s support each other on this journey!
References:
- ADHD Australia: [adhdaustralia.org.au](https://www.adhdaustralia.org.au)
- ADDitude Magazine: [additudemag.com](https://www.additudemag.com)